Posted by Sharlee on February 19, 2002 at 03:45:27:
In Reply to: Sharlee, my mother is a One posted by Diarmuid on February 18, 2002 at 10:10:50:
: Tell her, in so many words, that she's perfect just the way she is, and that it's 100% okay to ignore it if you ever say anything otherwise.
: That may be too much for you to handle right now, so just do the diet thing.
: Say to her "next time i so much as mention weight, please instruct me to rack off", or whatever it is Ozzies say.
: I promise, promise, promise this is the best, most productive, most relationship-building, most daughter's-weight reducing thing you can possibly do.
#### What you are suggesting is so very hard for me. I have ignored her smoking (although she knows I disaprove) and I don't see any signs of her wanting to give that up. Eighteen months ago, my daughter, 5'8"" was a solid 95kg and I was not urging her to diet then - she went up to 120kg and then dieted down to 113kg with my encouragement. Now she is starting to put on weight again and my fear is that she will become so overweight that she will be beyond help and be one of those invalids who can't leave their rooms. I think one of the problems with someone with an intellectually disability like my daughter's is that they literally do not have the capacity to self discipline. Its like trying to reason with a 3 year old that they should voluntarily leave the lollies until after they have had their vegetables. They need imposed constraints but are smart and wilful enough to want to satisfy their urges as well. However, I'm willing to give your idea a go - I'm having minimal success the other way. If you can solve my problem, I'll gladly send you a selection of Aussie beer or whatever your poison is!!!! Sharlee
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