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Posted by ZZTech2003 ( on August 03, 2003 at 00:32:20:

In Reply to: which type is this? posted by natalie ( on May 10, 2003 at 21:42:30:

> I was friends with a guy who often spoke of his social problems: he thinks he's a jerk, he has to write out everything before he says it, panic attacks, etc. This was very surprising to me, I thought he was a nice, funny, sympathetic person.
> Then, the other day he arranged a meeting, and when I showed up, he pretended he didn't know why I was there. He was rude, aloof, and dismissive throughout the encounter. I am a 5w6 myself, and have certainly aliented people with my self-protective behavior, but not in this way. I was thinking he was a 6w5, but this behavior was some sort of emotional exhibitionism, so I was thinking 4w3. Any thoughts?

He is a four.. He suffers from fear of rejection. He rejects you first. Sets himself up for rejection so he can say. "I caused the rejection, I was not rejected." I do not suscribe to the wing theory myself. But I can tell you this. Fours often are mean and want to inflict pain on others because they want others to feel the suffering and what they feel. (ie: unhealthy fours)
My advise ditch the guy... Oh. I am a five also. I like fours ok. but I get away from unhealty ones...

good luck.

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