The Achiever (the Three)
Achivers are energetic, optimistic, self-assured, and goal oriented.
How to Get Along with Me
- Leave me alone when I am doing my work.
- Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.
- Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.
- Don't burden me with negative emotions.
- Tell me you like being around me.
- Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments.
What I Like About Being a Three
- being optimistic, friendly, and upbeat
- providing well for my family
- being able to recover quickly from setbacks and to charge ahead to
the next challenge
- staying informed, knowing what's going on
- being competent and able to get things to work efficiently
- being able to motivate people
What's Hard About Being a Three
- having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence
- the fear on not being -- or of not being seen as -- successful
- comparing myself to people who do things better
- struggling to hang on to my success
- putting on facades in order to impress people
- always being "on." It's exhausting.
Threes as Children Often
- work hard to receive appreciation for their accomplishments
- are well liked by other children and by adults
- are among the most capable and responsible children in their class
- are active in school government and clubs or are quietly busy working
on their own projects
Threes as Parents
- are consistent, dependable, and loyal
- struggle between wanting to spend time with their children and wanting
to get more work done
- expect their children to be responsible and organized
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele
The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages