Point Five: The Observer
The world is invasive. I need privacy to think and to refuel my energies.
What helps Observers
- Notice times when thoughts and emotions are withheld from others.
- Observe the hoarding of knowledge, time, energy, privacy, and personal
- See the control aspect of censoring information and compartmentalizing
- Observe that thinking can replace feeling and sensing information.
- Question the belief that feelings automatically lead to pain.
- Note the discrepancy between mental constructs and lived experience.
- Question the three S's: Secrecy, Superiority, and Separateness.
- Learn to value spontaneity and open-ended activity.
- See the discrepancy between feelings that emerge in privacy and the
lack of feelings in face-to-face encounters.
- Question the unwillingness to display emotion.
- Find ways to be seen, to disclose, to engage rather than withdrawing.
- Realize that withdrawal forces others to become the active agent.
- Find ways to unite body and heart with mind.
The Pocket Enneagram:
Understanding the 9 Types of People
Harper & Row, 1988, 90 pages