Palmer - The Pocket Enneagram

Point Five: The Observer

The world is invasive. I need privacy to think and to refuel my energies.

What helps Observers

  • Notice times when thoughts and emotions are withheld from others.
  • Observe the hoarding of knowledge, time, energy, privacy, and personal space.
  • See the control aspect of censoring information and compartmentalizing relationships.
  • Observe that thinking can replace feeling and sensing information.
  • Question the belief that feelings automatically lead to pain.
  • Note the discrepancy between mental constructs and lived experience.
  • Question the three S's: Secrecy, Superiority, and Separateness.
  • Learn to value spontaneity and open-ended activity.
  • See the discrepancy between feelings that emerge in privacy and the lack of feelings in face-to-face encounters.
  • Question the unwillingness to display emotion.
  • Find ways to be seen, to disclose, to engage rather than withdrawing.
  • Realize that withdrawal forces others to become the active agent.
  • Find ways to unite body and heart with mind.

Helen Palmer

The Pocket Enneagram:
Understanding the 9 Types of People
Harper & Row, 1988, 90 pages