Point Eight: The Boss
The world is an unjust place. I defend the innocent.
What helps a Boss
- Allow others to initiate. Learn to wait and to listen before acting.
- Note that a desire to escalate the action, stir up controversy, or
polarize a conversation may be a sign of rising insecurity.
- Identify boredom or disinterest as a possible mask for vulnerable
- Focus on the equally valid logic of other people's behavior. See the
consistency within other points of view.
- See that confrontation and physical excess can cover actual feelings.
- Note that real feelings can begin with depression. Reframe
feelings as a sign of progress.
- Realize that a preoccupation with justice, protection, and control
often polarizes others into being friends or foes.
- Remember to write down insights as they occur. Work against pervasive
forgetting. Review insights to combat denial.
- Learn to channel anger. Both the suppression and the expression of
anger can have negative consequences.
- Learn that compromise doesn't mean "quit."
The Pocket Enneagram:
Understanding the 9 Types of People
Harper & Row, 1988, 90 pages