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Type 1. Reformer

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Palmer
E-gram
E-gram  in Love & Work
Pocket E-gram
Riso and Hudson
Understanding E-gram
Discovering Your Type
E-gram Transform.
Baron & Wagele
E-gram Made Easy
Are You My Type?
Keyes
Emotions and E-gram
Hurley & Dobson
What’s My Type?
Callahan
E-gram for Youth
Naranjo
E-Type Structures
Excerpts from Enneagram Books
   Palmer - The Enneagram in Love & Work
 

Point One: The Perfectionist

One in Love
Living with Ones:

  • Do remember details. Ones are detail conscious. They appreciate small gestures: being on time, remembering names, proper introductions.
  • Speak respectfully. Make sure no one looks foolish. Ask for permission.
  • Compliment thrift, effort, and dependability. Don't expect compliments in return.
  • Cultivate your character. Set improvement goals. Don't flaunt your achievements.
  • Admit error immediately. Admission clears the air and prevents resentment.
  • Bring novelty and fun to relating. Ones tend to repeat the known.
  • Avoid power struggles. Ones need to be right. There are at least two right ways.
  • Maintain your own interests. Ones work long hours on their own.
  • Humor is especially helpful. Worry vanishes with gentle humor.
  • Ones perfect relationships. "What are our responsibilitites?" "What are we learning?" "What does right relating mean?" Ethics of relating are reviewed.
  • Scorched-earth policy. If the relationship develops a negative aspect, Ones think about calling the whole thing off. Relationships seem either black or white.
  • Once committed and convinced, Ones dig in. Extremely loyal. Value a family.
  • Guilt. Pleasure signals anxiety: lightning may strike if we're having fun.

One at Work
In the Workplace:

  • Likes specific guidelines and schedules. Loopholes are traumatic.
  • Practical. Reshapes abstract approaches into step-by-step procedures.
  • Likes schedules and accountability, knowing who's responsible for what.
  • Keeps track of detail.
  • Energy that could go to product may be diverted to details.
  • Looks for evidence of ethical character -- discipline, manners, appearance, respect.
  • Prefers doing over feeling. Wants to focus on work rather than work relationships.
  • Aware of critical points about a program but has a hard time proposing broad solutions. Too much room for error.
  • Secure in a formal role. Wants to respect hierarchy and authority.
  • Aware of the resume and the record. "Good people have a good history."
  • Devoted to work for its own sake. Takes pleasure in a job well done.
  • Works hard for the right cause, for the good leader, for the competent team.
  • Compares own effort to others'. "If they work, I work. If they don't, I won't."
  • Keeps score. Notes what others do right and wrong. Will defend others if they're in "the right." Airs the grudge list if they're in the wrong.
  • Can mask sense of personal entitlement by working for a good cause. "I deserve respect and special treatment because I do good in the world."
  • Wants rewards for effort and competence but will not ask. May displace resentment over nonrecognition onto details and petty interactions. Legitimizes hurt feelings by finding fault with others.
  • Finds it hard to delegate responsibility. Worries about getting the job done right.
  • Doesn't want to be compromised by the mistakes of others. Will hold a loner's stance until the source of error is assigned.
  • Afraid to be wrong. Prone to power struggles and arguments about who's right.
  • Shifts blame. "There was a reason," "It wasn't my fault."
  • Avoids risk. Risk leads to mistakes. When in doubt, wait. Don't take chances.
  • Strong advocate for those who work under a disadvantage or who improve as a result of personal effort.

Helen Palmer

The Enneagram in Love & Work:
Understanding Your Intimate & Business Relationships
HarperSanFrancisco, 1995, 417 pages

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