Point One: The Perfectionist
The world is an imperfect place. I work toward improvement.
What helps Perfectionists
- Notice when compulsive thinking or doing takes over. Schedule free
time so that real priorities can surface.
- Question severe internal standards. Question the rules. Settle for
adequacy rather than insisting on perfection.
- Avoid turning insight into self-attack, "How could I have been
- Get a reality check. When it seems that others are silently judging,
check this out with the people involved.
- Get factual information to eliminate unnecessary worry.
- Notice when One-Right-Way thinking limits options and fair compromises.
- Learn to pay attention to the merit of other value systems.
- Focus on forgiveness:"That was then and this is now."
- Learn to request and receive pleasure.
- Question the difference between "should" statements and
- Use resentful feelings ("It's not fair," "They're getting
away with something") as a clue to what is desirable.
- Recognize your own anger signals: putting on a happy face while feeling
inwardly angry; polite words in a critically sharp voice; a smile and a
- Weekends away. A One away from home can relax.
The Pocket Enneagram:
Understanding the 9 Types of People
Harper & Row, 1988, 90 pages