Posted by Rich (126.96.36.199) on July 30, 2003 at 12:03:42:
In Reply to: the ' everybodies friend' type posted by Jan (188.8.131.52) on July 30, 2003 at 11:37:28:
> Did you ever notice that some low profile Devoted Style persons ' everybody's friend' tend to please people to get advantage for themselves?
> They seem to say to everybody that he/she's right, complying with many different directions, and very conscious about how other people think about them; doing everything to prevent people feeling annoyed or irritated by them??
Last year, when you gave me alot of info on the Devoted ( to help with the family 6W7 ) I started looking alot harder at the Devoteds in my life! And once its pointed out, its obvious!
1.Yes, I did start to notice that people pleasing is a ploy. And that they will agree with whatever you want to hear....
2.You pointed out, that inspite of their " interest " in you, you are just a convenience for them. That and the fact that they have a whole bunch of other people lined up, just in case they might be needed....
Looking at the Devoted cold bloodly, they seem to have a tendency to be somewhat amoral, and rather calculating. In fact, I wonder if they aren't the other end of the Contrary-Leisurely continuum. Instead of butting heads like the C-L, they work the situation to get what they want.... Rich
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