Posted by Jan (126.96.36.199) on July 30, 2003 at 12:24:40:
In Reply to: ' everybodies friend' ( you are not special )type posted by Rich (188.8.131.52) on July 30, 2003 at 12:03:42:
Is not to tell unpleasant things or not reveal how they really think about your behavior, just keep.......silent. Very frustrating!
Yes overlap with passive-agressive, the kinda PA which Oldham describes as ' I can stand looking at the pc screen anymore, my eyes hurt'
There is some overlap with the Self Sacrificing Style too, often they have unsollicted ' let me do this for you's ' too.
Altruism seems to be some more subtle form of taking care of own interests by softly manipulating people into guilt or into a relation in which you can't possibly deny helping such a person...Often many of them have a network in which they are plugged in; and their heads seem to be full of thinking about all these people and there lives.
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