Posted by Rich (18.104.22.168) on August 11, 2003 at 17:31:59:
In Reply to: Re: Millon-2 Types of Narcissism posted by Charlie (22.214.171.124) on August 10, 2003 at 18:56:44:
> Interesting. I would tend to think that Oldham is referring to the Classic Narcissist when mentioning the self-confident style. This is more like freuds narcissist, which refers to extreme self-love?
**** According to Millon, Compensatory Narcissism captures the early psychoanalytic view of narcissism. Early childhood wounds are taken care by an attitude of superiority, but there is a feeling of inner emptiness.
> Can the compensatory Narcissist be truly happy if he is able to fulfill his fantasy? Or is it only an inflated happiness? And interesting enough, does the compensatory Narcissist sometimes have a sense that he has abandoned his true self?
***** The compensatory narcissist can be happy through their accomplishments. Day dreaming just leads to withdrawal from life! The problem comes in, just what other styles does the person have? If the person doesn't have styles that can get things done, you just get a boaster about what they will " someday "!
I cann't speak for others, but one of the hardest struggles in my life, has been to figure out what I wanted my life to be, and what I wanted out of life. In other words, I'm not too sure who, or what my true self really is. Having the Serious Style as my strongest style, I know my limitations, what is of vaule and what isn't, and that life isn't for sissies. The jobs yet to be done, stand in the way, of seeing the future.... Rich
> > Type 1 is the classic narcissism where people see themsleves as better & superior than other people ( The parent telling the child, that it will grow to be a great person someday! )
> > Type 2 is compensatory narcissism where the child feels devauled, but instead of giving up, resorts to fantasies of greatness. The child can either live in fantasies, or can make efforts to make the fantasies happen in really life.... ( The child has the attitude of, " I'll show you! ", or, " Its payback time! " ) Rich
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