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Re: excessive pickiness (or is it?)

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Posted by Alexandra ( on February 02, 2003 at 21:38:09:

In Reply to: excessive pickiness (or is it?) posted by pork ( on February 02, 2003 at 17:21:55:

> Most etiquette books will tell you that you shouldn't double-dip in a communal dip, or eat from a communal serving spoon, or drink from a communal beverage container (e.g., a public milk carton, a punch bowl).

> Those behaviors disgusted me on a visceral level long before I ever read an etiquette book, thus I discovered, much earlier, that our culture was divided into two kinds of people - those who revolt at such behavior, and those who shrug their shoulders and have no idea what the big deal is with the "strange" concerns of the former people. (Some of these people don't even mind sharing toothbrushes.)

> I have noticed the nonchalant attitude in some Nines; the numerous Nines in my family consider me something of an space-case weirdo on account of my cleanliness concerns. When I eat dinner with them, I spend several minutes beforehand washing my silverware with soap and hot water. I know it wasn't washed after the last meal; it was just held under the tap for a few seconds. It often bore telltale grime. Most of their glasses and mugs were visibly caked on the inside, so I never used them.

> Despite my somewhat amusing experience in a household of Nines, I don't really have much reason to hypothesize that the nonchalant attitude is correlated with Enneatype. It might be correlated with instinctual variant, though.

> What do you think? I.e., what's your E-type, your instinctual variant, and your opinion on the matter I've discussed above? Also, it's one thing to concede that "double-dipping" is bad manners "according to the books," but does it personally disturb you?

> ^(oo)^

I'm a 4w3 Social, and I am definitely the neatest person in my family. I am the one who will clean ou the bathroom closets of the 25 empty shampoo bottles which have been allowed to accumulate, and the one who really enjoys organizing the pantry, the fride, and the closets. My mother is a 9w1, and my father is an 8w7. My sister I haven't decided yet, but she's a slob ;) My father will complain about things being messy to the point where it gets unpleasant and turns into a scene, but will not lift a finger to help. My mother is stretched too thin, and cant' seem to keep it all together. So i tend to be the neat/cleaner.

Anyway, enough about the family dynamic. I really need a clean space to operate in the most efficient way. My ultimate dream is to live in a space in which i have only black and white, and no clutter.

ramble ramble ramble...maybe the unclutteredness i desire should start becomign more evident in my speech....

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