Posted by Diarm (220.127.116.11) on February 03, 2003 at 08:40:29:
In Reply to: excessive pickiness (or is it?) posted by pork (18.104.22.168) on February 02, 2003 at 17:21:55:
I wouldn't double-dip myself, but I doubt I'd notice if somebody else did.
I only get bothered with clutter when I can't find something, which is often. I am pretty much blind to untidyness. When I walk into a tidy room I have to work very hard to convince myself that a human being lives here, that it's not a hotel.
So long as a place is clean, I'm uninterested in tidyness and slightly more comfortable in a cluttered space then otherwise. I used to associate a tidy dwelling with mental illness in the dweller.
There's just the tiniest undertone of "please fuck off as soon as possible" about a tidy room. A "look at you crushing my beautiful seat cushion" atmosphere. I dislike feeling like I ought to apologise for being in a room.
> Most etiquette books will tell you that you shouldn't double-dip in a communal dip, or eat from a communal serving spoon, or drink from a communal beverage container (e.g., a public milk carton, a punch bowl).
> Those behaviors disgusted me on a visceral level long before I ever read an etiquette book, thus I discovered, much earlier, that our culture was divided into two kinds of people - those who revolt at such behavior, and those who shrug their shoulders and have no idea what the big deal is with the "strange" concerns of the former people. (Some of these people don't even mind sharing toothbrushes.)
> I have noticed the nonchalant attitude in some Nines; the numerous Nines in my family consider me something of an space-case weirdo on account of my cleanliness concerns. When I eat dinner with them, I spend several minutes beforehand washing my silverware with soap and hot water. I know it wasn't washed after the last meal; it was just held under the tap for a few seconds. It often bore telltale grime. Most of their glasses and mugs were visibly caked on the inside, so I never used them.
> Despite my somewhat amusing experience in a household of Nines, I don't really have much reason to hypothesize that the nonchalant attitude is correlated with Enneatype. It might be correlated with instinctual variant, though.
> What do you think? I.e., what's your E-type, your instinctual variant, and your opinion on the matter I've discussed above? Also, it's one thing to concede that "double-dipping" is bad manners "according to the books," but does it personally disturb you?
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