Posted by froggyTheFrog (6w7) (184.108.40.206) on February 13, 2003 at 14:23:34:
In Reply to: Feeling guilty about being a 4 posted by Rho (220.127.116.11) on February 13, 2003 at 08:07:04:
The way I understand that you feel inferior for being a 4 because the 6 is doing something with his art, while you feel you are not. You feel that your navel-gazing does not achieve much of anything for you. I fear that you might have pigeon-holed yourself with your type-label. Rho, with your preoccupation comes a strength... You know yourself well, and with it, perhaps you don't produce protest art that leads the masses to claim the government they want, but you do produce very beautiful art that comes directly from your soul. This is one of many strengths that a 4 has. Artistic 4's really are the Da Vinci's of the world. And with this statement, the first thing I want to tell you is read up on 4's, and this time, find your strengths. Your weakness is a sense of inadequacy that you can unwittingly use to incapacitate yourself. Don't worry... Other types are incapicitated by their own weaknesses. Ie., in me, it is fear. So, now you need to look for your strengths. And if you must navel-gaze to do that, just remember it is what helps you know yourself so well.
The second part has to do with your pigeon-holing yourself. Ironically, when we find out what type we are, suddenly we throw ourselves into deep pit. We are more limited than we were in the past before we knew anything about the enneagram because some book has laid out our limitations for us. Luckily, we are not limited to the flat character descriptions in the book. We have traits of all types! Perhaps we were not able to choose our unhealthy preoccupation, as that was chosen unconsciously by us in childhood. Remember that even though you are a 4, you carry traits of all other types. If there is something you want to do or something you want to try, why not go out and try it? The worst thing that can happen is you will discover yourself even more through the process of elimination. As you navel-gaze, give some thought to what you really want. You are apparently sad that you aren't more productive. It's time to think about what you really want, then. Guilt does not help you in any way. It is just another one of those devices that will hold you back.
Does this help you any?
> Last weekend I spent time with a 6 who is famous in another (kind of small) country. He gave a surprise concert & had a lot of chance to talk to his fans. He's a protest singer - he has no fear (!) & say strong stuff directly about The Generals (its one of those small countries)
> Well, I realized how much he meant to people, how much he was making a difference. & when I look at the self-indulgent naval-gazing I do I just feel *so inferior*
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