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Posted by Margaret ( on February 21, 2003 at 20:53:48:

Would anyone happen to know, why would someone pressure you to go on dates with other people? There was someone I used to know who always tried to get me to go out with other guys he knew, and I never knew why he always pushed this on me.

He would always say, "you should go out with so and so, because, blah, blah." I told him thank you, but no thank you, I was fine and content the way I was. Then he asked if I was lesbian, and I said no, of course not, I just don't really go out with anyone, taht's all. It was almost like the fact of me being single, or 'alone', if you want to call it that, bothered him or something. And I 'needed' to be with someone. As if there was something wrong with being alone.

Even now, he is still doing that. I just talked to him on the phone again and sure enough, he did the same thing again. He said, this guy likes me and he gets butterflies in his stomach when he sees me, but I knew he was only joking again, because he would always say the same thing about every guy we both knew. He was always like, 'why don't you go out with him?' talking about whichever guy happened to be standing right in front of us at the moment. And he just did it again. I don't get it.

I never understood it. This has puzzled me for so long. Why would someone keep doing this? I don't get it. I never undrstood. Why? Does anyone know?

He never understood my priorities. I never wanted sex as main goal. I would rather have respect and friendship. And that takes time to build. Days, months...years. You can't push respect and friendship. you can push sex, but you can't push friendship and respect. And that is what love is. Love is friendship. And friendship is respect. And respect is caring. And caring is love.

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