Posted by JJ (220.127.116.11) on February 23, 2003 at 14:14:56:
In Reply to: but Rhonda, posted by Margaret (18.104.22.168) on February 19, 2003 at 19:58:45:
Navel-gazing happens to be, ultimately, very boring and very uninteresting to everyone except the owner of the navel. So your perception that it is inferior is, unfortunately, in fact true. Maybe you can us this truth to help you remained determined and focused on accomplishing your dreams and goals.
While the ideal may be that we should not be defined by what we do...the fact is, we are. EVERYONE is "potentially' a saint and a perfect human being. Self-esteem is not gained by pumping ourselves up with affirmations and pretty sentiments, it is built by what we do and have done. And no, this view is not a result of a 'materialistic society" or " Type-A domination, etc". People become well-rounded, healthy and productive individuals by testing and acting on their skills and potentials in the real world. It is through this means that we can truly know our limitations and talents and deal with them realistically. The potential within someone is truly just a theory or dream until it is actualized in the real world.
> Yeah, I know waht you mean, but, still, you know the truth, as long as we are humans, you're not, I'm not, we're not - inferior, as long as we are humans. We are not what we 'do' for a living. We are not defined by are skills, our talents, our 'performance'. We are defined by our capacity for being human. We are worth while and valuable people simply for being human, for having a heart, for ourselves, and others.
> And that is the most comforting, and best way of looking at it.
> > Last weekend I spent time with a 6 who is famous in another (kind of small) country. He gave a surprise concert & had a lot of chance to talk to his fans. He's a protest singer - he has no fear (!) & say strong stuff directly about The Generals (its one of those small countries)
> > Well, I realized how much he meant to people, how much he was making a difference. & when I look at the self-indulgent naval-gazing I do I just feel *so inferior*
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