Posted by emoot( (220.127.116.11) on March 11, 2003 at 09:54:21:
In Reply to: Re: Really Honest posted by Emily (18.104.22.168) on March 10, 2003 at 11:56:27:
> > So, I guess what I am saying is that if we continue to post on here....maybe it would do us all some good to be as honest as we (safely) can.
> I've done this since the very beginning, and still do. And looks where it's gotten me.
> I've been criticized for it, attacked for it, laughed because of it. I'd say that if you have the courage to be honest, then go for it. But realize there will be people who will scoff at it.
= Ain't that the truth....(: It seems so weird that being honest sometimes garners such irrational disrespect.
Even though it may be the source of many barbs, flaming arrows and misunderstandings I think your sincerity is a good thing! It builds strong character. And ultimately people respect character. (:
You know, Emily, I actually thought about you yesterday as I was writing that bit on honesty. I remember a post you wrote about authenticity and how important it was to you. I understood exactly what you meant because I felt the same way. I remember correlating it to the Meyers-Briggs information bank in my head about how INFPs act as the emotional truth-sayers within social groups.
I suppose I have tried to figure out how to be honest without getting too personal, although I have spilled my guts on several occasions and in some cases it did seem like open season was declared for emoot hunting.(; But in those cases I think the benefit outweighed the cost and I don't regret any of those times.
In the case of me commenting truthfully on what I think of other people's situations.... I've tried to calibrate myself with some sense of diplomacy.
Somewhere between me knowing the limits of my vulnerability and my application of diplomacy.. I think there exists a safe balance for honesty here in cyberspace........ Or at least I will keep working at it.
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