Posted by Casual T (184.108.40.206) on April 21, 2003 at 22:32:46:
In Reply to: Re: The Illusion of Love posted by Just Wondering (220.127.116.11) on April 20, 2003 at 02:17:00:
No, I am not a 4. The overall details are too elaborate for a brief
summary. Basic issues: trust,intimacy, control, secrets. Her
solution was control and secrets at the expense of trust and intimacy.
My solution was trust and intimacy at the expense of control and secrets.
We parted ways and she moved on to husband #3 who remains clueless. I
suspect that she is as happy as she can be. I never betrayed her. That
was my contribution; intimacy does not invariably lead to victimization and betrayal. I learned a lot about myself in the process. We were a
handshake; I played my part in the dance of intimacy. Now, I choose partners more carefully. The dance is different, less intense, more
predicable; less dramatic, more authentic. If you asked her about me,
she would say, "I loved him, but we were not "in-love;" something was
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