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Posted by close to home ( on May 03, 2003 at 23:32:47:

In Reply to: Re: The Illusion of Love posted by Casual T ( on April 21, 2003 at 22:32:46:

> No, I am not a 4. The overall details are too elaborate for a brief
> summary. Basic issues: trust,intimacy, control, secrets. Her
> solution was control and secrets at the expense of trust and intimacy.
> My solution was trust and intimacy at the expense of control and secrets.
> We parted ways and she moved on to husband #3 who remains clueless. I
> suspect that she is as happy as she can be. I never betrayed her. That
> was my contribution; intimacy does not invariably lead to victimization and betrayal. I learned a lot about myself in the process. We were a
> handshake; I played my part in the dance of intimacy. Now, I choose partners more carefully. The dance is different, less intense, more
> predicable; less dramatic, more authentic. If you asked her about me,
> she would say, "I loved him, but we were not "in-love;" something was
> missing. Amen.

Thx, CasualT, for your story...a month old though it is... Although there is something almost voyeuristic about having read your response posting...you have been the voice of God to me tonight. If you ever come back to this site and read this...I hope for you a passionate, intimate relationship that is mutual. Actually, I hope to find a man like you for me someday. Thank you for, well, it's nice to see, maybe even begin to believe, that you, and thereby perhaps others like you, really do exist. You are a treasure. I appreciate you. And I'm taking the advice you gave to others, and that your Four Friend was unable to do for herself.

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