Posted by Just Wondering (220.127.116.11) on May 04, 2003 at 02:27:27:
In Reply to: Re: The Illusion of Love posted by Casual T (18.104.22.168) on April 21, 2003 at 22:32:46:
> No, I am not a 4. The overall details are too elaborate for a brief
> summary. Basic issues: trust,intimacy, control, secrets. Her
> solution was control and secrets at the expense of trust and intimacy.
> My solution was trust and intimacy at the expense of control and secrets.
> We parted ways and she moved on to husband #3 who remains clueless. I
> suspect that she is as happy as she can be. I never betrayed her. That
> was my contribution; intimacy does not invariably lead to victimization and betrayal. I learned a lot about myself in the process. We were a
> handshake; I played my part in the dance of intimacy. Now, I choose partners more carefully. The dance is different, less intense, more
> predicable; less dramatic, more authentic. If you asked her about me,
> she would say, "I loved him, but we were not "in-love;" something was
> missing. Amen.
My apologies for the late reply. I have been stressed about things including that and work. Thank you very much for it. It was very insightful. You were and are a true friend to her.
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