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Posted by Margaret ( on May 17, 2003 at 15:59:21:

In Reply to: :HELP! I want what I can't have, frissons + nerves posted by Ella ( on May 15, 2003 at 02:13:37:

**Life is what you make of it. Just think of nice things and happy peaceful things. Get in your car and drive away in the country somehwere. Find somethings that make you feel content, relaxed and at peace.
Find a place to get away to, a river, a park, I found park nearby, must have had about 70-80 deers, a whole herd, all standing nearby, grazing, what a wonderful thing. A river was nearby too. The Schuykill. Lots of ducks swimming. Really quiet. Very rural. It was very nice peaceful and relaxed.
See, with this imagery in mind, and with actually going out and getting away from it all, don't you feel better already?
Don't worry about getting caught up in all your 'personal needs' and 'ego' stuff. Don't worry about finding a s.o. Just focus on learning how to make peace with yourself first. Otherwise, with all your anxieties in the way, you will only put up more obstacles in blocking your relationships with others.
First, find the peace within yourself. Then, go out and share the peace with others.
About finding your true love, you will find him in due time.
And when you do, you will know. And you will not feel pressure. You will think about him, and feel happy and peaceful, with sometimes butterflies, but mostly you will feel at peace.
Meanwhile, get the peace within yourself first. Because without this within yourself, you cannot have it with others. And that is a necessity to have to be able to live a nice and decent peaceful life.
Work on yourself, first. Good luck, Margaret

> Am fairly healthy 4w3.
> I find myself wanting people's boyfriends, people I don't really know, older people and unreachable people (my friend's boyfriend, my teacher).
> Yet my friend, who I love but not romantically, keeps being friendly, dropping hints. I realise it might be my own fault - I told my friend I loved him, and she decided to get mixed up in this by telling him so - but now he's being nice, I just don't want him at all. It's really messed up. And what makes it worse is, his mother died two weeks ago and he's grieving. So I can't talk to him about it, but he's a doing person. He acts on what he feels.
> On top of all this, I'm bi. This might mean that really, I don't like boys at all.
> *runs around the room squawking*
> So what do I do?
> You're all strongly perceptive and insightful agony aunts. I have high expectations. :)
> Lots of (messed-up angsty teenage) love,
> -- Ella, xx

> P.s. Prayer appreciated too.

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