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Re: Do 4s internalize other people's pain?

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Posted by Rho ( on May 23, 2003 at 00:39:38:

In Reply to: Do 4s internalize other people's pain? posted by old friend ( on May 22, 2003 at 22:50:48:

I have similar things - lots of anger and rage deep inside that (at 38) I am only just beginning to figure out. I don't think I have internalized other people's anger. I've never had the feeling of that happening. I have ... felt other people's pain - but not picked up thier anger. I have plenty enuf of my own. But I'm one of those anger deny-ers. I still can't feel my anger as such. It takes the form of crying, of feeling humiliated, or of paralyzing depression.

My answer to your first question would be no.

**And how do you turn your experience into
**something healing for others as well as for yourself?

By figuring out what I have learned from any experience - even if, emotionmally it was as damaging as amputation

(I'm going to have to bail on question 3, too as I just don't feel this thing of pickin on other peoples anger)

OH -- something just occured to me. Perhaps if I spent lots of time around people full of anger, I would pick up on this. And yes, it would be diffucult to tell that is was not "my" anger, but something that I absorbed by being in around anger.

I think that as soon as you start to see that it comes from an internal source, that should help you simply assume that a lot of you new anger is
"phantom" anger ...

ps: I really like that you chose the Arberry translations of Rumi.

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