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Re: is this an insult? please help

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Posted by emoot(: ( on May 27, 2003 at 20:18:35:

In Reply to: is this an insult? please help posted by Lori ( on May 27, 2003 at 18:29:43:

Let me be the first to validate your perception.....

Uh, yeah..... that was a bit on the pert and crass side. In that comment she took a very liberal leap in assuming that your husband's character relies on his waist size. I also agree that it was an insult to you as well. She didn't give either one of you any credit.

It is in the same league of negative undertone comments that people make off-handedly at weddings. "Congratulations, the fun's over now that you've tied the knot with the old ball and chain."

She may not have meant it in a mean way but sometimes I think people are very unaware of their underlying motivations. That comment may have been tinged with a bit of jealousy for it to have come out in such an unflattering way. I'd say something's bugging her that she probably isn't aware.

I mean if she truly wanted to give you a compliment all she needed to say was, "Hey, he looks great! You must be very proud of him for getting healthy." There was no need to insinuate anything else.


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