Posted by raz62 (188.8.131.52) on May 28, 2003 at 09:58:31:
In Reply to: I'm a hopeless romantic, and it's making life hard posted by Don't Dream It's Over (184.108.40.206) on May 28, 2003 at 09:41:05:
>I didn't meet my first love (we went on to have a 7-yr relationship) until I was 23. Before that I just had tons of infatuations (some bad breakups too.) So I doubt you are destined to a life of singlehood.
Now, what I want to warn you about is that THERE IS NO PERFECT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. There are passionate, intense, intimate long-term relationships and even in the best of those there will be negative times. I've had 2 long term relationships and at times I really couldn't stand either one of the men. I guess you are a Type Four and you just have to learn to handle your own hurt because most of the time, the other person does not deliberately hurt my feelings, it's my own self doing all of the emotions, does that make sense? (Sometimes the other person is oblivious to your feelings, and you have a right to ask them to be more sensitive -- but they have an equal right to say that while they will try not to be hurtful they are not going to change their whole way of being just to please us.) Already I've talked too long -- the answers are yes, you can find one or more wonderful relationships and no, there is no PERFECT person out there for you (but probably dozens of potential realistic partners.)
Post a Followup