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Posted by Don't Dream It's Over ( on May 30, 2003 at 07:41:33:

In Reply to: Re: I'm a hopeless romantic, and it's making life ~ posted by Leah ( on May 29, 2003 at 11:31:09:

> Everything you just said is the exact way I feel...I understand what you're going through. Sometimes I find myself throwing myself at random people, not because I'm attracted to them because of looks or personality but just the fact that I feel that I need to be in a relationship. I also take verything I say seriously. If I say or do something I cvonsider embaressing, I'll obsess over it for weeks. Because of my extreme sensitivity, I have a hard time maintaining relationships. Each time I act in this behavior, I promise that I'll change but I don't. I dunno why I still do it anyways.

What you just said rings plenty of truth for me. I don't exactly agree with what attracts me (hey, no two people are alike!) but I do agree that sometimes I find myself throwing myself at others THINKING that I do like them for some insane reason.

The most important common ground that I find between us is the our sensitivity. I havce a hard time maintaining relationships too because I read too much into people's words and actions and obsess about that for weeks on at worst. I can think about something so much that I would not stop until I find a satisfactory explanation for it, and then a day later feel that I might be wrong and be worried about it again. It hurts me.

I understand what you mean when you say you tell yourself to change. Believe me I have tried to do away with this behaviour too. People say that personalities can change over time but many four's I believe will disagree vehemiently with this point. I try to put an end to my worries, but they just keep coming back to me. I cannot stop thinking. Sometimes it exasperates me.

Which reminds me, I once had a long talk with this counsellor and she asked me the word that came straight to my mind when I think about relationships. She was rather surprised when I said compromise. I think it takes a lot of effort for me to work out a peaceful harmonious relationship, particularly because I'm so damn sensitive about everything. Anyone feel the same?

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