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cj, how can I live in your words?
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cj, how can I live in your words?

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Posted by minbari ( on May 30, 2003 at 11:01:28:

In Reply to: Re: trying my best to destroy the treasure posted by cj ( on May 30, 2003 at 08:22:51:

I hope you come back online enough to get this question. I so want to live in your words! I'm panicked because I feel like I'm running out of time. I feel like I should move back to the coast. Every time we look at each other I feel like she feels like I'm watching her or judging her and I'm really not...can I not say anything to reassure her that I'm not?

Yes it feels very self-centered right now. I don't want to be...but I'm desperate not to be abandoned...

> Hi! I used to post here a lot, then fell out of touch, and am back now. I am a 4w5 by the way. Anyhow, it seems pretty simple to me. Leave her alone. When someone tells you in practically every way they can that they need some space, you should respect that. Don't be so self-centered. You are placing your need to "define" the relationship and "clarify" things to invade her space, psychologically speaking. Respecting a person's wishes is a way to gain trust.

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