Posted by minbari (220.127.116.11) on June 02, 2003 at 21:28:20:
In Reply to: Any other analytic fours out there? posted by David (18.104.22.168) on June 02, 2003 at 02:46:17:
I'm a 4w5. When I'm centered, there's nothing better than being me--whether I fit in or not. But the minute the analytical mind/ego dragon kicks in...it gets ugly. Especially in the "fitting in" need. Well, it's not the desire to fit in so much as it is the desire to find/be with people who can love and accept me for who and what I am PERIOD and me them. So it's not like finding a bunch of people "like me" so much as finding a diverse group where I can be diverse too. It ain't easy.
Tranforming a feeling of being a stranger in a strange land...haven't considered it from that angle (i.e., what is there to transform?). I look at my two favorite people on the planet who have the most to teach about living on this planet and they are/were definitely strangers in a strange land and their answer was to give and to love and remain free to be truly themselves (the two would be Jesus and Buddha...should probably throw Gandhi in there, too). Truth, honesty, respect...
Being lonely and sad is part of the human condition, no matter what number you are on the enneagram. The four has the greatest capacity for transforming THOSE feelings creatively (in my humble opinion)... We are lovers of beauty, after all. The passion to connect, to love and be loved, to go deeper into understanding the world, ourselves, the one we see...is a tremendous vitality...(and can be of great sorrow)
I'm feeling pretty good tonight, it appears. Refreshing.
Do you read Rumi?
> Hi! I just read Eli Jaxon-Bear's work on fours. I recognized myself clearly as an analytical four.
> I'd like to correspond with other A4's.
> I am particularly interested in learning how others have transformed the feeling of being a "stranger in a strange land", so to speak...
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