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Posted by Margaret ( on June 09, 2003 at 19:27:42:

In Reply to: Re: Especially for Social variants -- More posted by raz62 ( on June 06, 2003 at 09:56:40:

***They're not snubbing you, they're protecting themselves from you. I saw your pictures, you look like a model or movie star in your twenties. They don't want you to know the amount of rejection and negativity they're up against. For you to find out and possibly laugh at them, it would really tear them apart. It would make it hard for them to come to work and have to face you. Really hard.
They're not immune to rejection, they are human, and they will still be as hurt feeling laughed and rejected especially from a good looking woman like you if you found out about the amount of rejection they face (and business they lose and could never hope to get) as any other guy from any other business, line of work, or income bracket.
They don't want you to see how vulnerable they are, so they hide it from you. You see it as snubbing. They see it as protecting themself. At bottom, they are not 'gods'. They're just regular guys. People. Your average 'joe', they experience rejection and self-doubt and pressure too much for them to handle but cannot so 'no', because they are 'caught' in playing this role in life, reinforced by their work, this role they are in, the requirement, to do a job, work for a living, it might seem strange, but the majority of them, they feel 'stuck' in it, and don't know how to 'get out'.

> I have to add that I'm not against elitism (being choosy about who is "in" vs. who is "out"), it's just that my ideas of "who is worthy of socializing with vs. those whom I avoid" is SO DIFFERENT than the "norm" of this place.

> People who have all of the intellectual, emotional, and moral development of a sea kelp are to be avoided -- or maybe instructed if I'm in a generous mood -- but here the ambitious sea kelps are snubbing people like me. And I want to tell them off!

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