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Posted by cancerdog ( on June 22, 2003 at 01:27:57:

In Reply to: Re: dating advice for 4s posted by j ( on June 21, 2003 at 23:50:51:

> > Thanks for the response. I agree that meeting through friends, church, etc. is the best method. It just never seems to happen that way. I have tried to date through the Internet but it is scary for a 4 to subject yourself to rejection if the guy doesn't like your appearance or finds another date as some guys are serial daters. I am a decent looking person but as most 4s I am very insecure. I have met some good people on the Internet but nothing serious. How do you end up meeting someone at a lab, concert, etc? What "pick up lines do you use"? I am very nervous to approach a man. I guess I should be more confident and get over my fear of rejection... M

> ya. theory is never really real life is it? sorry for giving the "pat" answer. i don't use pick up lines. that would scare me to death. i just flirt and wait for the guy to approach me i guess. i never really flirt seriously, just in case they don't like me back, i leave it open. i would be very nervous to make the first move as well. i let them make the first official move, and then i make the second move. do fours ever get over their fear of rejection?? i'm starting to wonder. that would be a very healthy four i guess. i think it is very brave of you to date through the internet. kudos :)

> later,
> j

I wish I could get over my hear of rejection. I just think it is so tough to build self-confidence. Sometimes my approach is to try to pretend I am confident when trying to meet when but deep down I am really nervous. What types do you think are the best for a 4 to pair with? 8s bring out my massachistic side and 5s are so unobtainable. Lately it seems like 6s or 9s may be a good option. Curious to get your feedback. M

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