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Posted by cancerdog ( on June 22, 2003 at 13:37:28:

In Reply to: Re: dating advice for 4s posted by j ( on June 22, 2003 at 12:58:03:

> > I wish I could get over my hear of rejection. I just think it is so tough to build self-confidence. Sometimes my approach is to try to pretend I am confident when trying to meet when but deep down I am really nervous. What types do you think are the best for a 4 to pair with? 8s bring out my massachistic side and 5s are so unobtainable. Lately it seems like 6s or 9s may be a good option. Curious to get your feedback. M

> *******I am all for 9w8s. warm fuzzy teddy bears. sexy, give you lots of hugs, passionate about sports. intelligent. yum. um... that's kind of cause i have one. hee hee. but a 6 year relationship for a 4 is a very good sign of compatibility, don't you think?? previous to him i only had short relationships. committment phobe. 6's also have that push pull quality that us fours sometimes can't get enough of. but it depends. sometimes hedonistic meets conventional can cause problems. i find that a lot of sixes only approve of me part of the time. but that could be the N/S conflict too. what is your myers briggs type? i'm ISFP.

I am an INFJ myers mriggs type. I have been casually dating a man but am not sure if he is a 6 or 9 but he is a big procrastinator--calls me on Friday night to make plans for the weekend which for a "J" on the MBTI is not very good. I agree about your assessment of 6s and 9s. I like them but their communication skills are not that good. It seems I have to draw them out a lot which is frustrating for a 4 who is good at expressing themselves. Your relationship is very long for a 4. That is great. I appreciate all your advice.

> j

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