Posted by The4Blob (126.96.36.199) on July 10, 2003 at 11:52:30:
In Reply to: Eek... A 4... posted by Lakhesis (188.8.131.52) on July 10, 2003 at 02:29:42:
Welcome to recognizing that you are a 4!
Please ignore my rantings and ravings about my job (the other posts here) -- THAT is part of the vicious cycle unhealthy 4s can get into -- being ignored and feeling misunderstood leads to expression of negativity, which bores &/or repels people, which leads me to feel more ignored and misunderstood, etc. etc. Yep I can dip into the unhealthy levels after one perceived slight from others -- something to work on --
The defective thing -- it's so funny where we all get that idea! Yet you meet other 4s both here and IRL and they are beautiful people, and then they hate themselves! We are doing it to ourselves, carrying something from way in the past and letting it still make us feel defective. In reality, are you in any way shape or form abnormally defective? Probably not. Even with all of my faults I still respect others, work regularly, and attend to my family's needs (& with any leftover time to my own needs . . .) -- I'm not defective in any sense that makes me unloveable. I AM boring . . .
So why don't you say more about yourself? Part of the fun here is figuring out your dominant wing, also describing specific incidents where you live out the characteristics of a 4.
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