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Posted by Lakhesis ( on July 11, 2003 at 00:10:38:

In Reply to: curse of the 4? posted by Never enough? ( on June 28, 2003 at 11:40:04:

The really unfortunate thing about Fours in general is that while love and intimacy is so important to us, it is incredibly difficult for us to accept, since at our deepest core we believe ourselves to be unlovable. We are self-saboteurs, we push away the very thing that we want the most.
The only advice I can offer is to try to let go. By holding on to a consciousness of 'wanting' or 'looking', this is precicely what the Universe creates for you- a constant state of not-having. Letting go is the hardest thing in the world to do (I know this as much as the next person!!), but is ultimately the only action that will yield results. Buddhist literature is particularly good for inspiring letting go- I remember getting some definite shifts from 'The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying'. You might want to give it a read.
In the meantime, do everyting you can to change the belief that you're not lovable- prayer, affirmations, self-nurturing. All SO important. Think about the way you expect a relationship to make you feel, and find other ways to inspire these same feelings within yourself.
All the best.


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