Posted by The4Blob (18.104.22.168) on July 21, 2003 at 09:40:32:
In Reply to: in a nutshell (above post too long, this is better posted by Margaret (22.214.171.124) on July 19, 2003 at 15:31:47:
My experience has been different but with some key items shared.
If anything, mine is more comical or maybe I just have gotten over being upset by it. But I can look around at my peers -- relatives and former friends and classmates -- and they have houses, new cars, etc., and I don't. What makes my situation comical is that I was supposed to be the brainy one who would rise above my working class neighborhood and have the whole upper middle class (maybe upper class?) scenario -- they expected me to be lawyer, dr., professor, or an award-winning writer or something big. The "average" or "dumb" (please don't take offense at my politically incorrect language, that's how we categorized everyone back then in school years) went right from high school into blue collar union jobs or, for the ladies, nursing and teaching were common.
Now the "average" and "dumb" people of my past have the nice houses and nice cars and the summer home on South Jersey shore -- AND I DON'T! I can get really resentful when I think of someone like my friend's sister who lives in a huge house in Bucks County -- because she was pretty and right out of high school "caught" a contractor who made good money.
But my path has been unique and I would be bored to death with some of the other paths -- even thought those other paths led to having material success by age 40.
You have travelled, that's something to consider a positive. I lived in NYC and flopped when I tried to make it freelance but still I wouldn't give up my time in NYC for anything. You probably have gifts that you have to figure out how to utilize -- good listening skills and empathy, which could lead to a counseling career? And what about your idealism and desire to help others via writing about medical advances in pain treatment, something you have mentioned before?
I'll write more later -- my boring job beckons --
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