Posted by cj (184.108.40.206) on July 22, 2003 at 09:13:36:
In Reply to: Re: Physical Intimacy posted by katy (220.127.116.11) on July 21, 2003 at 22:11:03:
> Yeah, I know how you feel. My mother's an EIGHT/ONE combo, not exactly into that sort of thing. I didn't get hugged for as long as I could remember. In my society everyone was very repressed and inhibited - no touching.........it was like living in an emotional siberia. Bless G-d I got out of there. I am still alone and CRAVING for physical touch but at least I've found friends who do know how to hug. I actually read in a book about 'touch' that it has been scientifically proven that touch to humans can heal. Having been through a very traumatic life - I come from an abusive background........parents divorced and I divorced too after I fell in with a abusive guy.........I recognise the importance of touch and feel that it actually heals me to get touched. It's also a good idea if you live alone to get a massage.
> Good luck and enjoy!
> hugs and much love,\
I understand too!! Grew up with a 1 father (allergic to affection) and a narcissisitc 7 mother, hugs were a birthday/Christmas event. My husband is a very affectionate 4/3 and I LOVE it. My upbringing was so cold and repressed, it was a revelation for me to find something completely different that I craved my whole life. It is wonderful to find something you've been looking for and realize that you were not defective or crazy to want something your family doesn't value at all (and makes fun of other people for)...
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