Posted by The4Blob (188.8.131.52) on July 25, 2003 at 07:45:23:
In Reply to: Re: Intimacy Issues posted by P (184.108.40.206) on July 25, 2003 at 00:32:52:
>>>>>>>I am glad that P comes on here and gives us 4s a totally different perspective. Why? Because as a 4, I subconsciously ignored all non-4ish opinions and viewpoints my whole life and likewise basked in 4-fests where we all sat around and talked about how shitty the world treated us and how wonderful and unique we were and why couldn't potential mates/society see that in us etc. etc. etc. Then after years of this I got tired of playing victim, also really started listening to the viewpoints of someone who is about my complete opposite, my significant other, ESTP and either 8/9 or stresses to 5/6 -- and what he objectively saw in me and the other whiners I hung with was NOT a pretty picture. Now I can laugh hysterically when I will, for example, go to a 12-step meeting and here a woman complain that her job is abusing her and damaging her self-esteem so she's going to quit and go on disability for depression, or when another woman complains that her husband is a bastard who makes her turn all the lights off at night because of the electric bill (and she does not work, he's footing the bill), I have stepped in the shoes of the other side, I have been in the place of the employer who has to put up with the high absenteeism and then low energy of a depressed worker; I have had to pay HUGE electic bills to keep my family cool in summer and have given up things for myself because of it -- but I don't think anyone really gets offended by P, do they? He's very entertaining and you have to take his comments as somewhat humorous.
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