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Posted by Funky ( on July 25, 2003 at 13:25:12:

In Reply to: Seductive Styles of 4s posted by The4Blob ( on July 25, 2003 at 11:41:45:

Yeah, I did that in high school. What is with that teenage phase? Sitting around in Journalism class dressed in black listening to Depeche Mode. Heh heh heh. Wish I coulda skipped the pretentious melancholy stage (what a time waster) but I suppose it's biochemically impossible.

I love playing around with styles. Some mornings I don't know what to wear. I've got my alternative type clothes, my techno clubber gear, my funky hippy veggie muncher stuff, my Enya-listening romantic Renn-style garb, my 'feeling old you youngsters today what is with you' costumes (aka office worker clothes) and the punky rock n roll stuff. I have to mave my clothes match my mood for the day or else I feel like I'm in someone elses' clothes! (even if they are all mine in reality). Sometimes I wonder if I'll confuse people (you know how some people get confused when you fall out of how they superficially categorized you) if I show up in a different style than what they are used to from you. Like if I wore my red leopardskin suit with high heel boots to a place where they are used to me in my Lola Granola muncher gear. Ah, decisions, decisions.

While not really an extrovert (prolonged exposure to people seems to tired me out)., people do seem to find my approachable. Doesn't matter what I'm wearing, people always seem to come to me when they need help with anything or want to talk about something I'm doing or look like I'm interested in. There could be an employee/lab tech/instructor standing around and instead they'll walk up to me and ask me where they could find something or what I could recommend or how they should do something. I don't remember culivating an air of competence! Darn. If I did, I could make money telling people how to do it.

> It always worked for me, and I didn't know I was a 4/3 sox/sx or INFP back then -- I naturally gravitated toward black clothes, but with a decidedly casual flavor -- like a black lace top over blue jeans and black boots -- same with hair, whether straight or wavy I wore it looking windblown, casual, and I liked the pale skin with brooding lined eyes and dark lips look -- and then I would go out and sit and listen to music (classic and modern rock of course) and drink and maybe indulge in other substances, then I'd just pray that some guy would come along who would want to talk about Kurt Cobain or the latest Scorcese film, and who actually had an IQ above 120; but the point I'm getting at here was that I never presented as an extraverted friendly fun person. Although I laughed and laughed at times and then would dance like an idiot only because I was drunk, I was basically someone who tried to draw men in with a smoldering intense look, and then depended on my wit and intelligence to keep someone's attention. Was I pretentious and overly cynical? Yes yes yes guilty. Did I sneer at nice friendly wholesome happy people? Yes yes yes guilty.

> By day, though, I am quite the respectable "librarian" looking girl.

> How do you Fours connect with others? Have you ever been rejected for not being more conventional, more easy going, more estraverted, etc?

> BTW, it's been so long since I've done the "club" scene that I would not know what to expect now. I'd love to experiment one night and go out "undercover" and see what it's like now.

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