Posted by Rose (126.96.36.199) on July 25, 2003 at 17:18:10:
In Reply to: Seductive Styles of 4s posted by The4Blob (188.8.131.52) on July 25, 2003 at 11:41:45:
I used to be really open and fun and goofy, but then I started to stop do to fear of being rejected , or judged and hurt. And I think once again your problem may be because of four's avoidant streak. I have a book called "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson, It says that fours, being a part of feeling triad tend to mask feeling of shame by playing the part of the victim. Also, fours motivational aim is attention. They desire attention and acceptance, fear abandonment, and while two's may hang on somebody's arm for attention fours tend do a push pull with people, and leave people hanging on for more by not opening up all the way. Also, it says that all types suffer narcissistic wounds from childhood and fours usually act in a mysterious demeanor, telling themeselves."this is who I am , isn't it?", "Don't you like it?" All we do is try to lure people in cause we desire attention and seek a rescuer. I personally try to use different lessons in the Enneagram to change my bad habits, maybe if catch yourself being a seducer stop yourself in the act.
I hope you can this all as helpfull as I have.
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