Posted by The4Blob (220.127.116.11) on July 30, 2003 at 11:40:40:
In Reply to: Reply....I will email you... nt (: posted by emoot(: (18.104.22.168) on July 30, 2003 at 09:13:18:
> > Your number three vice is one of BIGGEST downfalls. I've been comparing myself to others for a very long time. I think that must be a very hard thing to stop doing. I should try to do that as well. I think I would feel more at peace at myself mentally. That is a great idea. I do have a weird thing that I do though sometimes, like say I meet someone who is smart, attractive and a female like me. I think to myself well, I'm better than her anyways. I feed these thoughts into my head like, well I know a different language, I have thicker hair-anything to make myself feel better and to not feel threatened. But that is not the same thing as just stop comparing all together is it? No, I guesss it's not. I just thought that thinking that I'm better was BETTER than thinking Oh God, she is so perfect and I'm such a loser. So, are you saying that when you meet someone who have may have "special" qualities that no little red flags go up? No heartbeat uping a beat?
>>>>>>>>>I do that same comparing thing. I had a fit the other night because we were at the playground and, over the past 5 years (age 35-40), I've gained about 20 lbs. and lost almost all of my upper body strength (I went from a moderately physical job where I lifted stuff often to a complete desk job in 2000). I can't even get from one bar to the next on the monkey bars, but my husband, 7-yr-old daughter and 4-yr-old son can do all the bars with ease. So a few couples about our age were playing around and the two men did the bars, then a woman said "I'll do it" and I judged from her body that she wouldn't do more than one or two bars, if any. Good thing I didn't bet because she went across the whole set! I got really pissed off. I have very particular standards by which I compare myself with others and she just totally blew me out of the water ESPECIALLY as she did it in front of my husband and that's one of the "significant" audience that I play to. Anyway, I did something positive, I just joined Lucille Roberts for 2 months. I'll keep you all updated on my progress.
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