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Posted by Yeliz ( on August 02, 2003 at 17:44:16:

In Reply to: Re: Dont take it personally... posted by Margaret ( on August 02, 2003 at 14:03:42:

Well I agree, although easier said then done, in the end, it does absolutley no good to beat yourself up when many the times it's either the 'system', or other people who put you in situations that are discomforting to you.

**** Hi Margaret - you're right it isn't easy to look inside when one feels threatened from the outside world.
About your statement above, I do not believe that the system or people should have the power to put us in discomforting situations in the first place.
I also don't believe in blaming external means like e.g. the system or other people.....that's too easy but not enough for me.....rather I see them more as lessons that come into our lives and once we have learned them, we'll move on to the next one.

> However, on the other side, fact is, we all have to make a living one way or another, and living in an imperfect world, I guess the best thing to do is just do the best you can with what you have wherever you're at during work hours, and afterwards, just get out of there as fast you can, don't llok back, don't carry it around with you in your head, jsut focus on something else after work. Get, build, develop a life outside work that you can seek gratitude and enjoyment from because at least during off-work hours, that is the only time you have to enjoy the most the freedom and leisure to not feel like you "owe" someone something, whether it's 'socializing with others in a way that satisfies them in order to please the way your boss wants you to interact with others in his office in order to keep your job' or whatever.

***** Thank's for your advice...

> I personally am still waiting to hear if I will get any offers from a couple of jobs I would like to have fulltime ideally, but am at least on my second assignment doing more temp work in meantime which is better than nothing. I think I pretty much chucked working for Lincoln FInancial Filed, however, because in order to work there for Eagles games, you also have to work a bunch of other evets which is too many hours and would interfere with my day job, but oh well, at least it was worth an attemtp.

> Meanwhile, as far as the weekends go, this is the first cloudy one which is why I am not some outside excursion now, although I will probably still go out somewhere when I'm done writing this. However, having gone to MD Cheseapeake Bay the other weekend, although Annaoplois was interesting kind of like a miniture Wash DC, it was okay, but not really all that great becasue practically no beaches and also too highly populated beyond my comfort level, but at least I got my curiousity stisfied.

> Welcome all new people to the boards. Good to hear new voices.

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