Posted by the4Blob (220.127.116.11) on August 04, 2003 at 08:13:31:
In Reply to: What is your obstacle to intimate relationship? posted by Margaret (18.104.22.168) on August 02, 2003 at 15:21:28:
>>>>>FYI: I got Type 3, not Type 4, vibes from your post. (and some of your other posts). As a 4, you would be kind of proud of your differentness and so-called defects -- and there ARE types of men out there who go for the different, who have vulnerabilities.
It is NOT about just your physical appearance. It is great that you bulked up from 99 lbs to a more muscular figure with more weight; 99lbs sounds like eating disorder/sickly territory (unless you are really tiny, 5'1" or smaller.)
However, your looks draws the men in but after that it's what comes out of your mouth and it's your behavior; even in sex it's partially what you look like but more how you act.
I am 153 3/4 lbs. at 5'4" and I too am working on getting down to 140lbs. Hey, after that, if I want to keep going I'll drop 5 lbs at a time and consider if I look better -- but either way my husband is more interested in my having a loving attitude toward him (and being open at least sometimes to his sexual advances) than he is in that my upper arms have gotten chubby or my boobs dropped about an inch after 2 kids. It's your choice, but I would not want the kind of man who measures a woman by conventional beauty standards and then imposes that on her -- right now, I hear that in LA you are supposed to be as skinny as Calista Flockhart or Heather Locklear but also have pert boobs a C cup or better. These creeps I work with seem to have this narrow (pardon the pun) idea of womanhood too. What are you going to do with a guy like that when you both hit your 40s and 50s and are not perfect anymore?
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