Posted by Lakhesis (22.214.171.124) on August 06, 2003 at 21:04:10:
In Reply to: About that body and relationship post posted by Margaret (126.96.36.199) on August 06, 2003 at 18:57:00:
Unfortunately, something that women do all the time (and I'm VERY guilty of this myself), is underestimate men and their depth and integrity. We assume that men are only interested in skinny women with big boobs and vacuous minds, but this actually isn't the case at all!
Sure, it helps to be physically attractive and live up to a guys 'list' if you're just wanting to get meaninglessly laid, but men actually do really crave deep traits in intimate relationships. These are the hard bits for 4's to get around- we feel so deeply and so intensely that the idea of someone else entering our inner landscape is terrifying because it makes us feel SO vulnerable and SO ready to be hurt.
There are millions of men in the world whose life partners look nothing like their 'perfect woman'. I know that I've always end up in relationships with people -'But they're SO not my type!' Of course, you need to find someone physically attractive, but there's beauty all over the place, not just in one or two different forms.
There's also the UTTER importance of chemistry- it's either there, or it's not, and depends very little on physical attractiveness.
I suppose basically, what I'm saying is that maybe you could focus more on opening yourself up on a soul level to this person, showing honesty and vulnerability. That's what will make him fall for you, IF he's going to fall- not your cup size!
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