Posted by The4Blob (126.96.36.199) on August 11, 2003 at 09:38:07:
In Reply to: how do other people do it? posted by Margaret (188.8.131.52) on August 09, 2003 at 14:54:09:
> ***With no where to run, no where to hide, no where to go, no escape to use as prime defense, how do other people manage to live with such circumstances?
> > So looking at it that way, yes, secure job is much better.
> > However, there is still that part of having a secure job that still needs to be resolved.
> > That is, what was always your *primary* defense, being able to 'escape' to 'freedom', now that you just sacrificed it, your *primary* defense, now that it's gone, how will you defend yourself now?
> > It is like a turtle who got his shell taken away. Now how will he protect himself now? His 'freedom' to 'escape' into his shell, his only defense, now gone, now what? How will he protect himself now?
> > Like him, with my defense 'ability to escape', gone, how will I protect myself now? How will I protect myself now?
> > How?
> > That's my question.
>>>>>>>>>I don't think you should give up your primary defense "cold turkey," 100%. The new place you got is private, right? Think of that place as your protective shell, that you can escape to each day after work.
I am lucky, at work I have my own office (took 2 years to get it!) I deal with people until I start to feel stressed, then I retreat to my office. At home, I sometimes have to lock my kids out of the bedroom 'cause I need about 1/2 hour to "regroup" (obviously I can only do this when my husband is there to watch them while I'm taking a break.)
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