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Posted by The4Blob ( on August 12, 2003 at 07:45:51:

In Reply to: When Type 2 gives you guilt trips posted by Margaret ( on August 11, 2003 at 19:32:13:

> Well I finally shook off the guilt trip a 2 gave me at the agency I had my last job with, since I wanted this one whole last week all to myself beasue lord knows when I'll ever get this chance again. Boy did she really get MAD at me for not goign back to the job. But I jsut did n't like it enough to go back there. I didn't like the way I was treated over there, they did not treat me like a professional, but instead a juvenile, and since I am no longer 'desperate' for money because I have enough to pay my bills for this month before my next paycheck comes the following month, I think I'll be okay for time being.

> Anyway, she really gave me hell all last week for calling in sick twice as well as cancelling it for today and the rest of the week. So all week last week, even yesterday, and all day today, I still could not get her unpleassant guilt trip behaviour off my mind.

> But then later, I starting thinking of other things, and now I am glad I didn't go back because I should n't have to let some type TWO dictate my life for me. What does she think the whole tmep business is about anyway? It's alwasy *temporary*, meaning no obligation on either side. Besides, this is porbably the one and only time I ever had it were I was the one who blew them off instead of them blowing me off. Usually it's always me at the mercy of the job assignment, it was unusual to have it the other way around for once.

> Anyway the worst thing a type TWO (or ONE) can do (form my experience with them in general) is give you massive guilt trips, and what is so bad about that is they make you feel like a "bad" person. But what/who makes them 'authority' to judge others as such? I don't think so. Instead only YOU can determine whether you are or not.

> And I know I'm not -she was just using that as a tactic to get her way with things. And I know that ultimately, I made the right decision and did the right thing for ME.

> Also, I am pleased because this weekend will (finally) be plenty of sunshine as well. Which is good, becuase I will have this week to finish cleaning and start buying furniture, then head out for my long awaited trip toward the end, right before I start my new job, which means (not that she's off my mind) this should be a pretty good week:)

>>>>>>My Dad is a 1/9 self pres and he is always casting me, himself, anyone we know as the "powerless" victims who are supposed to be good soldiers and shut up and do whatever THEY (the employer, even a temp employer) tells us -- my husband (an 8) sees it as "Pass the Vaseline" to put it in crude terms. But then when you point out to my Dad that these employers show US no loyalty, no consideration -- my brother got laid off and as a result his oldest daughter went from Boston U. to Community College of Phila. (quite a descent in the college pecking order), my Dad will just shake his head and sya, "well what are you supposed to do? YOU have to KISS ASS and BE SUBSERVIENT and when THEY tell you to jump, you aks, HOW HIGH?" I have ALWAYS rebelled against this self-negating thinking, I have always wished my Dad were more able to stand up and say, Fair is fair and you (the individual worker like me TheBlob or Margaret) have just as much a right to make certain demands on a temp agency and just walk out if something better comes along -- well as a 4 I tend to be even more on the individual worker's side, not THE INSTITUTION, and feel that if THEY don't give a sh!t about what happens to us, they can shove their guilt trips up where the SUN don't SHINE.

>>>>>You are right, she (the 2) just did not want to look bad, so she tried to transfer the blame onto you. She placed you with an unsatisfactory assignment from your viewpoint, then instead of being apologetic to you and accommodating your needs, she acted like you were the "naughty" one and that the companies she services are god-like and above reproach.

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