Posted by schrips (184.108.40.206) on August 25, 2003 at 19:31:12:
In Reply to: Re: interviewing posted by Dee (220.127.116.11) on August 24, 2003 at 23:18:05:
Well, I got the job!! I gave my resignation notice today at work...I'm in this wonderful state of relief to finally be rid of that place. Working with developmentally disabled adults is just not my cup of tea (E-type 2 is always lowest on my test scores). Whew hew...happy, happy, joy, joy. Thanks for the advice!
> > Does anyone else absolutely abhor interviewing for a job? I just had an interview today for a job at this hippy natural foods store (crossing my fingers). But I feel like I always interview really badly. I get so nervous my brain shuts off and I end up saying exactly the wrong thing. Example, today I said that my employers would describe me as quiet...why would I say such a thing when I'm trying to get a retail job? Stupid, stupid.... I just hate the whole idea, too. I feel like I'm selling myself, and not in the self-helpy book way of "how to sell yourself to potential employers" but like I'm prostituting my very being before the god of capitalism. They want you to be this "perfect employee" that is punctual, hard-working, loyal, outgoing, etc. Every answer they expect at an interview is straight out of a manual. LIke they are jamming a square peg (me) into a round hole (that mythical perfect employee again). It's like all the things I like about myself (independence, intelligence, creativity, intensity, etc) are the exact wrong thing to bring up as strengths in an interview. I'm a little ventriloquist's dummy...Punctual? (Oh yes! If perpetually 5 minutes late counts...) Hard working? (Oh yes! Unless I think my boss is an asshole...) Outgoing? (Oh yes! Yeah right....) Follow directions? (Oh yes! Unless I think they are confining, uninspired, idiotic...) ARGH!!!
> > I guess I can just hope. I'm supposed to get a call back sometime tonight, so then I'll know one way or another. He said he liked me and that I seemed like I would be a good employee. But he also said I was too quiet and overqualified (what the hell does that MEAN?). Business makes absolutely no sense to me...
> Boy you're having a tuff time. Are you reading your release and affirmation statements? I printed mine off and keep them above my computer and one in my wallet. It really does help.
> Everything has to start with you first. It's ok to be selfish when working on yourself. I'm a Type 4 wing-three. I know what it's like to become involved with the way everyone else is first and then me last. Turn this around. YOU COME FIRST. Discussions with your brother and parents have to be cut in half. (I'm not a doctor by the way and you don't have to take any of my advice.)
> If they start the conversation, BE THE LISTENER. Try to cut the amount of time you spend starting the conversation SLOWLY in half. It doesn't mean you don't care, it will give you more time to spend on you. You'll find that over time doing this, you're own thoughts and ideas will be more clear and easy to handle. You will also find that you'll be more interested in what your family has to say and inturn they will be more interested in what you have to say. I'm speaking from experience. I grew up in a household of 7 children, all 2 years apart. My mom was more like your dad. I did what I'm suggesting and it really did help.
> Get yourself a hobby. Oh, and a tip on job interviews..., at the end ALWAYS let them know you want the job! eg. it's the end of the interview.. the interviewer asks you if there is anything else.. this is your que to say, "Yes, I want the job." just like that.
> Good luck.
> Dee : )
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