Posted by schrips (22.214.171.124) on August 27, 2003 at 01:13:22:
In Reply to: Re: shamed by emotions? posted by Sunshine (126.96.36.199) on August 26, 2003 at 17:27:35:
Thanks for the compliment about my writing skills...at the moment that is my career aspiration. Nothing on the relationship front now...BTW I'm generally attracted to women. I have a lot of trouble letting myself get into relationships...I think because I equate them with someone having an emotional stranglehold and see that as a threat to my independence (a la my parents....) Unfortunately, when I do it seems to always end up something like the situation you are in. Thanks for the advice, and good luck. :)
> You write with a lot of feeling and a wonderful sense of humor, and you are definitely creative. You made me smile because of your lively details and also it made me see how so many of us are caught up in so many emotional states and situations, and yet we wish at the same time we could get out of them, like an ocean tide -- pulled one way, yet wanting to stay grounded -- attracted to the vast ocean but again would rather not drown. I think taking small steps, actions in your own life, being in the real world (join a club, a group, a job, a sport, one way or another in your own way) would be helpful. This is my own advice to myself.
> At least it doesn't sound like you are attracted or in a relationship to a man who appears to be available at first and then isn't or never was and you are not torturing yourself about what could have been, and how if you hadn't said this or that, things might be better, when in fact you have absolutely no control over that situation -- that's my recent situation and I am desiring to get out of that quicksand, truly, because all too familiar and repetitive. All the best to you.
Post a Followup