Posted by Lakhesis (22.214.171.124) on September 02, 2003 at 21:17:48:
In Reply to: Fear posted by Dee (126.96.36.199) on September 01, 2003 at 22:27:16:
Admittedly, this has been a long and drawn out process, but I've really mastered this fear.
I remember around 8 years ago, when I was at University, I was petrified about making any comments at all. I used to sit there, with all these intelligent and fascinating insights rolling through my brain, but the thought of actually SPEAKING them led to absolute anxiety- I'd shake and sweat and everything.
I'm not really sure what's happened since then, but I'm now incredibly vocal in meetings/seminars etc... Even the idea of asking a seemingly stupid question doesn't bother me anymore- 9 times out of 10, there's at least one other person who wanted to ask the same question. I think that the art I've learned is that of compensation- maybe it's counter-productive to my respect of one wearing ones heart on ones sleeve, but the minute that I feel fear, I jump in and make myself become fearless and cocky instead. That compensation, added to the fear, means that I tend to just contribute in an entertaining, but meaningful, way.
This doesn't really serve as advice or input I suppose, but just an insight into my experiences.
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