Posted by Raz62 (22.214.171.124) on September 09, 2003 at 13:59:48:
In Reply to: Different Sub-personalities competing for control posted by Raz62 (126.96.36.199) on September 08, 2003 at 09:01:18:
> 3.) The person I have actually been called to be is kind of gross to me. I have completely failed at making my home a beautiful work of art -- and with the lively pets and beautiful garden -- and lots of quality time with my own children and perhaps with children in general (ex. teaching Girl Scout badges to my daughter's troop.) A gourmet chef. This role appeals to me a bit, but the day-to-day drudgery is just too much . . . this person falls somewhere between Type 1 and Type 4/3. It's what my life is BEGGING me to be and I don't like it. I'd rather be #1 or #2 (detailed above). Should I call this role "Domestic Goddess"?
>>>>>I remembered that Margaret had a topic going, "learning to domesticate," how it felt alien -- YES! It's like leaving the person behind that you are used to . . . and by default leaving behind some of your old defenses . . . and now, in my case, I'm driving two kids around in a minivan! It's like having to wear new clothes in a style you've never worn before. I just have a hard time with it -- I don't think that need to be the great homemaker and mother is a big part of my personality -- I like the idea of being a teacher to my children, though. Can someone who idolizes Dorothy Parker and Kurt Cobain turn around and be an acceptable mother? All I want to do is leave this boring job and go home and nap and finish "Bolwing for Columbine" and my Dean Koontz book!!!!!!!! No chasing 2 kids all night and spending 15 minutes "debating" (more like begging them) just to get them to start brushing their teeth!!!!!!!
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