Posted by Phungus (188.8.131.52) on September 12, 2003 at 20:01:13:
In Reply to: being an unhealthy four...avoidant personality dis posted by avoidant (184.108.40.206) on September 09, 2003 at 14:27:50:
i am a 4w5 as well and i can definately relate to what youre saying. 3's and 8's can be mighty hard to relate to!!...so dont fret. ok this is the deal - firstly take an look @ life....if you spend all your time introspecting youre going to miss out on it!! ppl can suck sometimes, sure they might put you down, sure some will be mean...but in the end its not all bad, or good for that matter. whilst there are idiots out there, there are lovely, beautiful people about too! those who will make you feel at ease about yourself and your choices.
the only solution is to GET OUT THERE AND LIVE IT. i know its way easier to type than to DO - yes i know ive been through it!!! but if you want an answer THATS IT. you have to do the rest of the work. and once you do its well worth it!
to get in with tha people, try meeting calm people with similar interests to you. for example if you like painting, why not join a community art course? you could even try to go to an enneagram workshop somewhere to meet others of your type ... and learn how to relate to other types!
and please remember - its your life, so dont miss it!! we're all scared of something, once you realise this you will feel less vunerable.
hope i helped! go tha 4!!
love and happiness,
PHUNGUSSSSSSSSSS ps feel free to email me if you need to talk some more
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