Posted by Raz62 (126.96.36.199) on September 19, 2003 at 09:48:52:
In Reply to: Re: Poll: How do you deal w/Social rejection? posted by Dee (188.8.131.52) on September 17, 2003 at 17:15:18:
> Hey Raz, do you make up an exaggerated version of what really happened to make your point? I have a tendacy to do this.
> Dee : )
Honestly I don't have to exaggerate in the least anymore. You see, where I work, I am not the only one ostracized. Three other women on the support staff are also completely left out of any events.
For example, a new woman started Tuesday. Already she is being invited out for all of the usual drinking and stuff. The analysts walk by her desk (diagonal to my office) and are really friendly to her, and to the receptionist and another RA who sits near me, but they don't talk to me at all.
Because it's not really a job issue, it's not something I can discuss with my boss, although I could bring it up informally just to get his insight. The KEY issue is that I have the 3-wing weakness. I can come to work knowing all of the great things about me, and who I am, and all that, and then, by the end of the work day, the reflection I get back from others here eats away at all of my confidence and esteem until I feel I am nothing.
Then I meet this brilliant (intellectually and creatively) Type 4 yesterday and HE LIKES ME and we are already planning when to meet again. It's so weird, if someone like him can like me, I must be something -- then I get rejected here at my job. Hey, maybe it really is that the ones who reject me are a little bit put off by me (that I'm too good at too many things and a more developed person and they KNOW it, and their egos can't handle it.)
The other support staff women I mentioned are rejected for a combination of reasons: socio-economic class difference, appearance, racism, and ageism. The ageism thing might apply to me too; I should never have even told anyone my age because until people are told they think I'm about 30 -- but, then again, if someone is that stupid that they would judge by the date on the birth certificate instead of by the person, who wants to be with a person like that anyway?
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