Posted by Willow (22.214.171.124) on October 01, 2003 at 20:16:35:
In Reply to: Intimacy Issues posted by Pharaoh (126.96.36.199) on July 24, 2003 at 21:35:01:
Hi I am 26 and a type 4 and I have a real problem with relationships, Firstly I hardly ever fancy anyone and when I do fall for someone its always someone completely unobtainable, the three most intense relationships I have had have all been with guys who I had at most a few nights with (mostly the result of me throwing me self at them when I'm drunk) all these guys have been total pot heads and have had a very anti-society, anti-romantic view of the world and they always started by what felt like a mutual attraction and friendship but they always back off after the 1st time we kiss etc, and I then get obsessed I have been carrying a torch for one of these guys for about 3 years now. I never thought that perhaps I homed in on guys who would never respond to me and therefore leave me in this land of longing. perhaps if they had been just as keen on me my feelings wouldn't be so strong? I also wonder why guys that are pot heads are so attractive to me? I do think that I have felt envious of these guys of their personal freedom and I guess i view them as exisential archtypes but most of that is probably just projection. The guy I feel in love with at the moment melted my heart when he told me he was a man of no emotion....how screwed up is that?
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