Posted by Hank (188.8.131.52) on September 20, 2003 at 05:30:42:
In Reply to: hellpers posted by Chat (184.108.40.206) on September 19, 2003 at 20:33:31:
Where did I say that I married her? She is my fiance. I don't live with my fiance. We both work all day long, how am I going to help her?
I'm truly mystified when people don't comprehend what they read.
> Hank, are you actually a nine? and is your wife a very frustrated three?
> Teachers spend an inordinate amount of time on preparation, especially
> when they want to SUCEED in educating students. Threes also want relationships to SUCEED. Slackers really frustrate threes, especially,
> spouses who are not mission oriented. Result: Nine: who me? Three:
> I do not know how to "handle" him. Observing party: She is so "pissed"
> she seems like a carping one. So, how are you "helping" your wife? Is
> it by letting her take the lead, set the agenda, do the work, while you
> "help." That is what average to lower level Nines do while rationalizing
> that it is "helpful" to the situation. Actually, it is reducing internal
> conflict for the nine, while simultaneously infuriating the significant
> other, who has no justification for being angry: after all, they are being
> "Helped." Let's hear about what Hank does during the work week.
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